Turning Self-Criticism into Kindness
Yesterday in my yoga class, I attempted a graceful side plank, but I was so exhausted that I couldn’t even hold the pose for a few seconds. I realized that I became incredibly frustrated and disappointed with myself. However, I'm grateful for moments like these because they allow me to recognize these reactions and turn them into opportunities for self-kindness.
As I reflected, I realized that I had been receiving a lot of criticism, little things, but they made me feel like I wasn’t "perfect enough."
There are always people around us pointing out what we’re doing wrong or highlighting our mistakes. Some might call this constructive criticism, but sometimes it feels more like judgment.
The reason we feel bad about this is because we’ve given others our power.
The truth is, you can’t control how people feel or what they think. And trying to meet their expectations of perfection won’t make you feel any better, right?
Every person around us serves as a reflection of our own energy. When I find myself surrounded by criticism, it’s often because I’m being too hard on myself, frustrated when I can’t meet my own high standards.
So what can I do to change my point of attraction?
My practice is simple, though it requires focus and attention.
First, I ask myself: Do I really need to do everything perfectly? Is anyone else going to feel better once I achieve perfection?
The answer is no. Only I am responsible for my happiness, and my joy is not dependent on what others think of me.
So, I shift my focus toward understanding and loving the version of myself that exists today. I focus on the person I’m becoming, regardless of anyone else’s opinion.
Finally, I visualize the kind of people I want to attract into my life, people who are supportive, who seek out the positive, and who feel good.
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